taking a break?

“It’s not selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and to make your happiness a priority. It’s necessary." – Mandy Hale



The year 2020 has been quite eventful, to say the least: COVID, racial tensions, virtual schooling, the election, and whatever else this year has awaiting for us.


Recently, I announced that I was taking a break from baking until 2021. I received much appreciated messages and calls to make sure that I was okay, and well wishes to enjoy my break. Everyone wanted to know why was I taking a break. The reason is simple - I wanted some time back for myself.


There's something that we always leave lurking in the shadows - self care. Somewhere along the path, we tend to forget that we all need self care. I am not speaking of diets or working out. I am talking about taking the time to do what makes us happy - mentally and emotionally.


I have a full time corporate job, I am a single parent, and run a small cake studio. Between all three, I realized that I just needed a break. I was burning the midnight oil, working on cakes and the administrative tasks (website management, photo editing, marketing, etc.) that are a part of being a business owner. I was to the point where I was so used to staying up late, that I couldn't go to sleep when I wanted to. I kept moving forward as life saw fit, but not taking time for me, myself and I. Each day was a pick and choose game - clean up or do laundry, bake a cake and not cook dinner. You get the drift. I was trying to figure out how did I get to this point. And I came to the conclusion that I was not taking enough time for me.


We need to realize the power of the small, but mighty word "NO". Simple as that. The word "NO" is not a part of a sentence, it is a full sentence. It's a statement. I have said no to last minute cake orders. I have said no to marketers wanting me to join and pay for advertising that doesn't work. I have directed all of my busin